Recently I had the extraordinary honor to be the best man in my brother Jeff’s wedding. In true Luther fashion we couldn’t let a life-time milestone pass us by without some pizza. Jeff and his bride Jaime not only had some amazing wood-fired pizza at the rehearsal dinner, but even surprised everyone with late night Dominos at the reception. They know how to pizza party.
In preparation for my best man speech I contemplated the qualities of a lasting relationship. As I swept my mind for the characteristics that keep two people together forever, I kept circling back to communication. Sharing pizza with our loved ones is a no-brainer, but it’s even more important to share our feelings with them as well.
I’m a proud member of the pizza planning committee.
At Oakfire Pizza in Lake Geneva a long table of family and friends reminisce and enjoy some laughs around an elegant spread of neapolitan style pizzas. Love is in the air as we excitedly share in anticipation with the bride and groom and some thin chewy pizza.
Little did everyone know that thoughtful planning went into the array of pizzas before them. My favorite best man duty was working with my brother and Jaime to pick out the pizzas for the rehearsal dinner. I was delighted and deeply honored that my brother asked me to help finalize the pizza selection
Putting our heads together for the perfect pizza spread.
We took into account everyone’s likes and dislikes we delivered a feast of pizzas for the whole family. Of course a classic cheese option was necessary, so we went with a Margherita that consisted of fresh mozzarella, fresh basil, pecorino romano and olive oil. The sauce was vibrant and was a nice contrast with the subtle smoothness of the fresh mozzarella.
My personal favorite was the Diavola which was basically a pepperoni option that came with soppressata (spicy italian salami), mozzarella, fresh basil and pecorino romano. The spicy italian salami, had a nice spicy kick and seemed to be a hit at my end of the table. Another fan fave was the Bosco; a sausage and mushroom pie with mozzarella, fresh basil and pecorino romano. The sausage was crumbly and savory.
It was a beautiful sight to see our ideas come to life as the pies were plucked out of a big wood-fired oven and served right before our eyes. We communicated effectively to provide a dinner that would suit everyone’s tastes, we even had a gluten free option. Of course Jeff and Jaime were the stars of the rehearsal dinner, but the pizza we brainstormed up was definitely a highlight.
Communication is key.
Several communication practices I’ve adopted that have helped me in my own relationships.
- Listen. Great communication is more about listening than speaking. When we actively listen to those around us we become invested in them, and in turn they build trust in us. Jeff, Jaime and I realized we needed a gluten free option, a cheese option and a pepperoni by taking into account everyones desires.
- Keep it simple. We can take note from the Margarita pizza and remember sometimes less is more. Often a clear cut, concise message is more effective.
- It’s all in the delivery. We need to be mindful of the way our message is received. Our message can be drastically misconstrued by the tone of our voice and the pace of our delivery. We don’t want to come off harsh, impatient or sarcastic.
- Give more than you take. When we open up to others it should be to benefit one another and compromise. We should accommodate and work to solve problems, so both parties end up happy.
What pizza taught me:
In a solid relationship communication is key. Just as important as sharing our pizza, is sharing our thoughts and feelings with the people in our lives. Congrats Jeff and Jaime!
What I’m eating: Oakfire Pizza; The Diavola; soppressata (Spicy Italian Salami), mozzarella, fresh basil, pecorino romano
What I’m reading: TED Talks: The Official TED Guide to Public Speaking Chris Anderson